Can we throw away that “everyone speaks English in the Netherlands so you don’t have to learn Dutch” mentality?
I’ve had a person literally refuse to speak to me until I spoke Dutch and while that sucks I understand. I live here and need to speak Dutch. Anyone who goes somewhere for an extensive amount of time should have the courtesy to learn the language. Even if they can’t, the arrogant mentality of “everyone speaks English” hinders you.
Anonymous asked Sorry if this sounds really ignorant but is being trans a choice? My brother is FTM and he said that he "just knew" he wasn't a girl. How does someone raised as a girl realize they're a boy?
Zak: The short and simple answer to your question is no, being trans isn’t a choice. There are a lot of different ways that trans people think about what it means to be trans, but overall most people accept that it isn’t something that someone just wakes up deciding to be. No one knows what makes people trans, but some researchers suggest that it could be related to hormones a fetus is exposed to in the womb.
There are all sorts of different ways that people realize that they are trans. Some people realize when they are 3 or 4 years old, while other people don’t realize until they are adults. Someone might realize that they are a boy, for instance, because they feel discomfort with their body during puberty and hate their developing breasts and wish they had a flat chest. I personally took a long time to figure things out. I was confused for awhile because I couldn’t imagine myself as an adult woman in the future and never felt like I fit in with other women. It wasn’t that I had more masculine interests or hobbies, in fact I don’t really, it was deeper than that and really a lot more difficult to describe.
If you’re really interested in this, I’d recommend reading an autobiography of a trans man that goes into more detail about the personal journey of figurings things out and what it feels like to be trans. A few that I’d recommend are Just Add Hormones, Becoming a Visible Man, or Second Son. Each of those books are from the perspectives of quite different people, though all are trans men. If you are a cisgender woman (a woman who was assigned female at birth), than it may be difficult for you to understand how your brother could identify as male or what it would feel like to feel male. It might be more useful to imagine what it would be like if you felt the way about your gender that you do now, but that you were assigned male at birth instead. To provide another perspective, you might want to read Redefining Realness, which is by a trans woman.
I hope that at least provides a good start for better understanding your brother!
To all those 12.9 year-olds on Tumblr,
I think we all know where you really belong:
I think you should shut the fuck up
we RP smut. I do it all the fucking time.
We write fanfics.
We love yuri and yaoi.
We have dirty minds.
Looks like we misjudged those 12.9 year olds.
Do you ever have blogs show up on your dash and you’re just like “…but who are you?”