Anonymous asked idk if you guys answer questions like this but im a cis lesbian and im kinda repulsed by dicks to be blunt with you so i wouldnt be comfortable at all with dating a girl who had a dick. i also am not comfortable dating a man regardless of their genitals. Ive never met a nonbinary person whom ive wanted to date either so i guess theyre out too. put short i only like cis girls. does this make me transphobic? i honestly dont know
That is pretty much blatant internalized transmisogyny. The thing is it isn’t even a question of you being attracted to a certain set of genitals because you just said you wouldn’t date a male identified person regardless of what they were assigned at birth so that says to me that you respect that trans men are men but you don’t respect that trans women are women. Take sometime to reflect on this and realize that being a lesbian means you are attracted to women and trans women are women. Do not associate your sexuality with genitals.
The message was very poorly worded, but I don’t think it’s your place at all to tell her what to be attracted to. Personally what I got out of it is that she’s not attracted to penises or masculinity. What she needs to think about now is why she’s not attracted to penises or masculinity. There’s nothing inherently wrong with that (and nobody better say there is), but I think the question she should ask herself is, if she met a trans woman who had bottom surgery (whether she was aware of it or not), could she find her attractive?
Also, general question on terminology: how is this an example of *internalized* transmisogyny?
truscum vs nonbinary people
Nice try at the edit, but you’re still saying that the need for surgery is harmful and needs therapy to overcome. Do you want to try again, or keep making it seem like you have no clue what you’re talking about?
dysphoria, right? that’s one of big things people are arguing a ton about. well i wanna tackle a little something here, maybe to clear up misconceptions.
something i dont think truscum quite get is WHAT exactly dysphoria is
lil question here: do you feel as though you identify as a certain gender that you have not been assigned? yes? do you want to be that gender? yes? there you go. thats it thats all you need
seriously, im not kidding. that want is what you need to be trans.
gender dysphoria DOES NOT mean you want to mutilate your poor body all the time in acts of self harm. it does not mean say goodbye to it forever in exchange for X features. thats really harmful and something that needs therapy to overcome. gender dysphoria does not mean you have no self-esteem, hate yourself, are suicidal and depressed, etc etc etc.
thats not invalidating people who do want to, say, hang themselves over this. no those people are very real, and so are the people that dont.
i experience gender dysphoria, yes, but not in some extreme exaggerated version of what you truscum seem to think it is. you seem to believe that without this horrible and unhealthy symptoms we’re not trans.
and non binary people, dont feel as though you have to meet their requirement for dysphoria, because the way you experience could be completely different from their definition.
What some trans people fail to realise about medical transitioning is that by being on hormones and having surgery, all of their issues in their life or their body issues won’t get fixed. You can expect HRT and SRS to improve the quality of your life, your self esteem, and issues that may stem from dysphoria such as depression and anxiety, but it’s not going to fix the way you hate your poor work ethic, your weight, etc. When you transition, it’s important not to focus all of your energy on your transition. Make other changes in your life to compliment your transition. This could involve getting a new haircut to improve your confidence and to make you feel better about the way you look, to starting a new course to learn about something you wouldn’t have learned before, and to improve your social skills because you are at a point where you actually can get out there and talk.
jmkelly89 asked I don't know if you will post this but I wanted to pass along some information for any guys who are struggling to get a therapist letter, can't afford regular therapy, or have other issues related to getting hormones through a therapists recommendation. If you have fairly easy access to Philadelphia we have a wonder resource in the Mazzoni Center. It is one of the highest ranked LGBT health clinics in the country. They do offer therapy services but do not use the GID code when prescribing
I know they will also see patients that live far away, provided they can make it there for their required appointments.
3789) My name’s Taryn. Its a pretty gender-neutral name. However several friends have told me its traditionally feminine, and the male counterpart is Tyrone. I hate the name Tyrone. But I can’t think of a male-counterpart that is similar to my name.
Terrence? Maybe too similar, but it’s a possibility. Of course the names don’t have to be similar at all. That’s how it ends up for a lot of us.